Dear cali sister:

Your father is likely to call, not to show up anywhere. Calling/ texting is easy. Your sister is too involved, she is more likely to inaccurately project herself into you than a stranger would because of the proximity, growing up with you- even though 7 years apart, still you share the same parents- too close for objectivity. So better you make an effort to not overwhelm her- so that things don’t get ugly. She is going through a lot herself, these very days, and she really wanted a peaceful weekend, her birthday coming.

If you overwhelm her she is likely to get resentful, feeling that you are spoiling her time, her birthday. Be careful. Share with her of course, but in bite size pieces, not repeating and focusing with her on light topics. Don’t make the visit mostly about the NC.

I will be going for a walk next and be back in a bit over an hour.

Again (here I am repeating)- take advantage of your sister company and support but make it easy for her, she is limited in her ability to be there for you without getting distressed herself.

Be back.

anita