Dear cali sister:

I know all that, from what she shared, this is how it occurred to me, long ago, that I misunderstood you. From what your sister shared it was obvious that you were very, very considerate of her and not at all the histrionic person I thought you were (a projection of my mother into you, an inaccurate projection). I understood that I was wrong long ago. I thought about sending you an apology post on your old thread, but felt weird about bringing to life that thread after it’s been dormant for so long (since June 2018).

I wasn’t blaming you at all this evening, my concern was for you– I was afraid she will get angry at you this evening, the last thing you need. My secondary concern writing to you was for your sister, but my primary- in the context of my last post to you- was a concern for you.

I was wrong, thinking you were like my mother, and your sister is wrong as well, suggesting (in the past, in one of the posts I re-read today) that you are like.. her/ your mother. We both projected our mothers into you, cali sister. I regret that and apologize for it, and I mean it most sincerely, as always.

No, you are not evil. You are a good person, I have no doubt whatsoever that you are.

How are you feeling now???

anita