Dear cali sister:

I was away for an hour, figuring you are probably sleeping late after celebrating yesterday. But see- my focus these days is you, because of this very new NC- so I think of you, keep the computer on longer, and when I see that you posted, I reply right away. Unfortunately, this kind of attention from one human being toward another is not common. I wish it was- I wish your friends checked on you. I would if I was any one of them.

Commonly people are limited in their ability and/ or willingness to invest in another person.  I guess this is why there are so many people who are homeless, way before they became homeless- no  one really cared to ask how they were doing, no one checked on them.

I’ll give you an example here on tb- it happens and it is not  uncommon that a member will reply to an original poster (one who starts a thread, asking for some kind of help), offering to be a listening ear, even a friend, then the OP says: thank you etc. But the member is gone, no second post.

When you do find a person in your life who notices you and checks with you- you found someone special.

You wrote that this is trivial, as if it shouldn’t bother you- well, it is bothersome because we do naturally expect more support when we get some. We need more, so we hope for more.

Tell me more, your thoughts, your plans for today if any, anything.

anita