Dear Cali Chica:

“suppressed emotion causing discomfort, anxiety, pain”- that describes what happened to you perfectly.

“Freedom is everything”- freedom from suppression from without (the mother, the person) and from within (her representative within us).

“I have done an incredible amount of work freeing myself from the wrath that is  my mother”- our mothers did two things to us: first, they hurt us and that was personal; second, they told us every person out there is bad and will hurt us.

“Some days this path is burdensome and it feels  like it isn’t life.  Other days it feels like, oh I guess the only life there is”- you described perfectly how this healing process feels to me.

“Feeling good is the only goal- and in a real honest, wholesome way. Not fleeting compulsive good feelings”- once again, perfectly said.

Using your words, I wish you today to be strong and grounded, free to make your choices, to not be overburdened with guilt and worry. May you celebrate today your own work, your accomplishments on the healing path, doing the uncomfortable, distressing and difficult work and persisting, as is documented here since 2016. You are awesome-

Happy birthday !!!

anita