Dear Cali Chica:

Win-win between the two of us is what it always was and will continue to be, I have no doubt.

This morning when I gave you what felt to me like a gift to you, I had no idea that I will be receiving a gift from you, what a delightful surprise.

Regarding happiness and your mother: she terrorized her two daughters, pressuring them and rushing them to be happy. It can never work. She terrorized you in your daily life to go, go, go, make friends, spend time with friends, be happy! She terrorized you before those vacations she planned, packing and preparing like crazy, and then once in the fancy, exotic locations, she terrorized you (and your sister) to go, go, go! Basically she terrorized the two  of you in the setting of a beautiful house and swimming pool, and in the setting of fancy vacations, so much so that your sister asked you in one of those vacations, an ocean setting, how to enjoy herself, or how it is supposed to feel or look like, her enjoying or being happy. She didn’t know.

A person can’t be happy while being terrorized, no matter the setting!

anita