Dear cali sister:

I just submitted a post to your sister telling her what I said that I will, and it was perfect timing because she brought you up (in a positively appreciative way, as she has for a long, long time). If you want I can quote to you in a later post what I wrote to her about you. Not what she wrote which is against our agreement to keep the threads separated. Let me know.

Regarding your two recent posts:

“isn’t life.. interesting?”- yes it is, it keeps me interested and curious, every day.

You cried last night because you were sad and angry. Here is what you wrote about your anger: you were angry that your sister chose a restaurant near your apartment, angry that she didn’t think to protect you from your parents potentially showing up looking for you and seeing you all together. And you were angry that she showed her parents in law photos (including blown up, huge photos) of her wedding which included photos of your parents, not thinking or caring that it will be difficult for you to see their photos, a few days after NC.

But more than this, you are angry about doing things for “her sake”, not for your sake, he tiptoeing around her that you mentioned in a previous post. Angry that your life has been about others so far, not about you.

“I am sick of hearing that is what she needs. I need things too sometimes.. this is what I am sick of. Always having to deal with things for the sake of others.. I become strong for the situation. For others. To help others.. I say ‘oh no, I’m fine.’ I come off as cool and chill with it- when truly, I am hurting… It is my freaking turn to be protected.”.

You are correct, that what ruined her vacations etc. “was not ME. It was our life situations”- after all, she had ruined vacations where you were not a part of at all. I am surprised that she showed huge photos of your parents knowing you just went NC. I am surprised she herself didn’t mind seeing those photos.

Back to the quote above: “I need things too sometimes… It is my freaking time to be protected”- I hear you loud and clear, I hear all that you shared in the paragraph above (“I am sick of hearing..) loud and clear. And I agree, of course. It will be a good idea if you became even more clear and specific about those things that you need. Make a list maybe?

Your second post- I like that, a new world-> a new wardrobe. To peel the parrot off your wardrobe, absolutely!

anita