Hi Daniel,

You’d been together for a year, it’s your Anniversary except that she has broken up with you through jealousy of you talking to someone else.  This is not a woman worth knowing especially as she is taking revenge by going off with her ex boyfriend.  If she has suicidal tendencies then she needs to be seeking professional help.

You say that you have a great room mate – does he have any friends that you could perhaps be introduced to?  Is there a counselor within the University that you could discuss your concerns with?  You are away from home and you are finding it difficult to adjust to City life.  Is it easy for you to visit your family during holidays or even weekends.

It sounds to me as if you are expecting far too much of yourself.  Changes happen gradually – the transition from child to adult takes years.  Taking responsibility for yourself means taking responsibility for your own success as well as for your own failures.  You are finding University hard and you already feel as if you are failing.  You are sharing the Course with other people and they are all going to be focusing on whether or not they will make the grade. You are not alone in this.  This is a natural concern.  It is just as easy to aim for success as it is to aim for failure.  Aim to succeed and you will.  Tell yourself every morning that you aim to succeed and it will happen.  Develop a positive, mental attitude.  This will help you in all areas of your life.

Aim to succeed, Daniel, aim to succeed.

Peggy