Dear Natalija,

Thank you for your reply.  You are wrong when you say that it doesn’t affect my answers.  Clearly it does.

Should you leave for Ireland and a job opportunity which you think can support you?  If you do that, will he object?  Will your relationship survive?  What if the job opportunities in Ireland keep coming?  Would that affect how long you would stay in Ireland?  What if you meet someone new in Ireland?  Are you intending to remain exclusive to married with kids bf?  How long do you have to decide on Ireland?  Is it better to go with a definite offer now or a much vaguer hope of supporting yourself in Croatia?

Who knows what will happen now?  You are the one that knows what will happen.  What are you waiting for – a green light?  You are the one that creates your life the way you want it.  Perhaps you need to seek out a life coach who can help you decide on your direction in life and then help you get there.

Here’s my life coach decision.  Take the job in Ireland.  Tell your boyfriend that you consider yourself free to embark on other relationships and wish him luck in his life choices.  Basically, you have all the power to do exactly as you please, he has none.

Don’t let this opportunity pass you by.

Peggy