Jake,

i do have some experience with this. 6 years ago i had a great relationship with someone who suffered from many ups and downs when it came to moods. She did suffer from depression and was not medicated at the time, nor did she do anything to help herself such as exercise, or hobby wise. She started down hill and our relationship went with it. I did nothing to cause this. She ended the relationship and returned all of my stuff, told me it was her and not me, then disappeared and i was shocked. I had no leads and was so hurt. I spent the next three months constantly looking for answers and begging. It caused my misery to heighten and i struggled to say the least. She blocked me, which came with a reason, which was that she started seeing a guy she had been with from her past that had previously left her hanging out to dry. When i found this out, i gave up the contact even though i was still hurting so bad. 3 weeks after i discontinued the contact, she started reaching out to me, and did so on three separate occasions. On the third try i took her back and we talked, as she admitted her faults and wanted me back. I took her back and we spent the next 3 years together, bought a house and looked to get married and have kids. Eventually the relationship started to decline, as she needed more attention than i could give, and coincidentally, she left again for someone else who got her pregnant, and i never spoke to her again.

my advice is, if someone voluntarily leaves you, do not reach out by any means. If they want you back, they will call. There is nothing you can do to change their mind. They need to do so on their own. The only thing you will do is push this person away. As much as it hurts, i wish i followed this advice back when this happened to me. As you could see, when i stopped contact, she came back.

but tread lightly with this, as my situation ended even worse the second time around, costing me years and a lot of money tied up in a mortgage. History tends to repeat and most people do not change their ways. We all dont think on our toes while happy in a relationship like we do when we are experiencing heartache. We resort back to taking things for granted, and its very human to make mistakes. Just trust your instinct. Most women do not enjoy being alone, so if she decides she truly needs you, she will call, and then you can then decide what you think at that point.

feel free to ask any questions you have, ive learned a great deal from my particular situation.

hope you get what you want out of this, and know i feel your pain, ive been there.