Thank you, Brandy..being heard and acknowledged really helps.  I know I need to share this with some friends, and with my brother and my ex-husband.  Tim wouldn’t greet his female peers that way.  If he did, he would be swiftly checked.  These young people are in the phase of life where there are lots of marriages, careers progressing….it is not a raucous group where this would be acceptable.

I find myself regretting that I was not more powerful at the time.  That ranges from confronting him, to giving him a hard slap across the face.  I know I have a right to feel angry.  I guess I need to sit with that anger and accept that it is there, and see what comes.  I know that however I move forward, I don’t want regret over any future actions.  Thanks again.  Really helpful reply.

Chris