Dear Felix:

It is true for every man, almost every young man: you will come across a woman you think is attractive, then another, and they yet another: a series of attractive women. A few of them will reject you. Again, this is true to almost every single man on the face of the earth. Key is to not let this fact-of-life discourage you so much that you are stuck in anxiety.

If you only need one woman, then you need.. only one woman. This means if 99 women reject you, that is okay if the 100th accepts you and the two of you build a lifetime of love together.

So let’s say you do share a flight with this young woman. It is not the end of the world if it doesn’t work out with her. At worst, it will be one more rejection, but not the end of your chances for romance and love.

If you see it this way, you will be  less anxious and able to function better in her company and in any woman’s company.

Sharing an airplane flight with her means the two  of you will be sitting most of the time, no height issue sitting, correct?

With this woman, and any other, focus on your advantages. Every time you find yourself focused on your disadvantages, switch your focus. Also, those disadvantages that you can improve- take on the learning process of improving those.

You can prepare a conversation starter with this woman. A woman (and a man) like an opportunity to talk about what they care about. Find out something that she cares about and ask her about it. Let her talk about it. It will be easier for you to listen to her than to talk to her. So let her talk. After she talks some, ask her a question about something she said. She will like it that you asked and appreciate the opportunity to tell you more.

Women like to be listened to, that is an attractive feature about a man to a whole lot of women. Imagine she is sitting in the airplane with a tall man who doesn’t care about what she is thinking, doesn’t ask.. what good is his height- see my point?

anita