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ooooph….that stings. I know it. That feeling. But you know it’s not true right? What they think? They only have a small amount of the whole picture, as one would expect, so they make banter and conversation based on what they do know, which is very little in the grand scheme of things. They work off information or non verbal cues from us- you’ve stated abruptly in the past I think in convos with your mum that you and Mr.A are nowhere near certain milestones like a mortgage etc.
So whilst it’s hard to hear, it doesn’t make it true. Just what they view from their limited standpoint. But feel blue if you need to and pick yourself up again. Nobody knows the future, we create it by taking steps in infinite different directions. So don’t write yourself off because of a little harmless banter, it’s not more than that.
Im absolutely thrilled for you about the interviews, nice to get a bit of momentum going. Plus each interview under your belt will make you less nervous for the next, or so it was for me at least. Best of luck with them- keep me posted!
Try and catch your thoughts about Thurs night and change them. You’ve got a right to go out and enjoy yourself, enjoy the music. If you want to get to a certain place in life you’ll make it happen – you will get to that point, when you can’t stay where you are for one minute longer.
As for me…. SPOILER ALERT….I just received a text from my ex with just a birthday greeting. Out of the blue. No contact or communication for almost 7 months. Me trying initially to survive and then move on….and bam. There it is. I mean, I think he probably has some ludicrous idea that sending a bday wish is ‘the right thing to do’. My head is scrambled.
As for the nice guy, I agree, could be hard to have a friendship, I know the risks. I feel he deserves for me to at least try, but I’ll have to maintain boundaries and discuss it with him. I’d hate to lose him entirely, but from my experience, not remaining in contact is the most optimum way to move on so we’ll see.