Anita,

My wife is not a stay at home mom, she has a full time job so adding that stress to everything else just made our relationship worse.

No, i never told her that i thought about other women when we were intimate, i agree, that would be cruel. And no, i never asked a woman out or anything. Not to sound arrogant or anything but, i have been told that i am very charming, and it’s easy for me to talk to women? If that makes sense? So i’d flirt with them and idk, build my ego? idk..

When i said, never put my wife first, i would put myself first. “how does this decision to buy a new tv affect me” or “if i work late, it’s fine, my wife is home and she can cook/clean/feed the kids/put them to bed”. Basically i was selfish. I know that that happens to people but, it obviously happened to me, and i am admitting i was wrong.