Dear Emma:

You are welcome and thank you for your words of appreciation. If you did send  a message to the man, that would not have been one of the ways for you to “express this craving in ways that will not break your soon to be husband’s trust in you” (a quote from my last post to you). It could only increase your distress.

But you do need to express this craving in a way that will effectively reduce the craving so that it does not overwhelm you and wear you down to the point of you feeling desperate and doing just about anything so to feel better.

How about psychotherapy s to process that childhood experience where that craving was born?

It may help for you to share about your childhood here. Part of you may not want to do that and prefers to be distracted by the issue of this man, but if you push through that resistance and share, maybe it will be a start for you. You can try it and if it doesn’t work for you, stop at any time. It is always your choice, here.

anita