Dear Cam:

“It made me feel as if bringing up an issue that he did not like would threaten the entire relationship”- it is relevant to mention that the entire relationship did not include a single meeting between the two of you. It was all long distance communication, mostly texting, between two people who had never met each other.

It is possible that before the fights, he was comfortable with a romantic long-distance communication and that he would have been uncomfortable with a physical romantic relationship. It is possible that the first two plans to meet failed because he never intended to meet you, or that he changed his mind. His reasons (“the plans fell through both times-  once due to his travel plans changing and the other due to him falling ill“) may have been excuses aka lies.

The third, most recent plan to meet falling through- it may have fallen through even if there were no arguments and no  fights between the two of you. It could have fallen through the third time because of a family emergency, for example.

anita