Dear Gaia:

Well, he was then totally in the wrong: you had every right to end that hug and go home. You didn’t owe him a hug or a kiss or any physical contact whatsoever, and you didn’t owe him an explanation as to why. He was wrong to scold you/complain to you about it, and your friend was wrong to take his side. I am sorry you had a negative experience that evening and night. You definitely don’t need more negative experiences in your life, you need positive experiences!

“he said other girls didn’t react like this”- it is sad that some girls (and many do) go along having sex with men just so to avoid that scolding you mentioned, very sad. You did the right thing not reacting like that.

I hope you feel better soon and I can’t wait to read about a positive social experience next. I wonder what it would be…

anita