Dear Gaia:

“I know I come off as very picky or hard to catch”- but Gaia, it is a good thing to be very picky when it comes to choosing a sexual/ romantic partner. Can you imagine how many sexually transmitted diseases people wouldn’t get if they were very picky? How many people wouldn’t get sick and die from such STDs as hepatitis C and aids? How many people wouldn’t become parents when they don’t want to?

And how  many people, if they were very picky, would save themselves a whole lot of money and years, if they didn’t marry the wrong person?

“he said that.. how I pulled out of the hug immediately was rude”- maybe it was rude of him to hug you without asking first: can I hug you?

“he said that he wasn’t going to have sex or physical contact with me”- that’s a lie because he said  it after he already initiated a hug and kisses, and these are physical contact.

“Around me people are not so picky with physical contact with members of the opposite sex, at least not people my age”- you don’t have to be like other people your age, you don’t have to follow their rules-of-conduct. It is okay for you to make your own rules.

You are a special young woman, not like others, special in a good way, an attractive way. Here is a thought: maybe other people your age should  be more like you in some ways, than you being like them.

What do you think?

anita