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Overall to me it sounds like you may be too “evolved” and unique for your physical surroundings. that’s not a euphemism, it’s complimentary. it sounds like not just your parents but your town on the whole make for a close minded environment. Maybe taking yourself out of these physical surroundings will help you to flourish and find yourself without feeling like you’re under the yoke of all these people around you. I know you have job obligations there but unless youre pulling in 6 figures, maybe taking the plunge and moving will open up a new world to you. If you move to a region that is more open minded and liberal (i’m not trying to get political here) you will more like minded friends and lovers who are going to accept you for the way you choose to live as long as youre not intentionally hurting anyone. I live in downstate NY and in my area if one was to tell a new girlfriend that they’re bi, I honestly think in the majority of cases they would say something along the lines of: “cool. so where did you want to go to dinner tonight?” when you say: “My family honestly makes me feel very small for not being in a relationship. My father tells me how disappointed he is with me not having a wife and kids yet.” it seems to me like they want you to settle. but you know what happens when people settle when they know they are with the wrong person? they ( no offence intended) end up like your mother’s situation with your father and I have a feeling you don’t want to be in her shoes. There is very literally an entire world outside of your town. there are over 7 billion people on this planet, and having the blessing of being bi gives you many more options than your average straight or gay guy out there when it comes to finding a partner! Go exploring…live YOU’RE life! not the life your family wants you to live! a new world and a new tomorrow are waiting for you, but you have to make the first step because no one will do it for you. best wishes and good luck!