@shelbyville its nice to see you are accepting your situation of your ex relationship being wrong. I too wasted 5 years back and forth.  Once that acceptance starts to come the next steps become easier that was the hardest part for me. I would say if you know you are never going to have a romantic relationship with a new guy you will do damage or more hurt to him by being friends. So you should  cut ties. You know from our own situation that any time of hope is the worst thing to have.

@adelaide you are the reason I had to reply. Your courage and strength is so admirable to have opened up you heart to love despite the adversities you face. I had come on to have a whine as I was unable to run which was helping my thoughts remain positive but reading your responses was inspiring. So you have helped me inadvertently xxx