Dear Lindsey:

You are welcome. To see to it that your kids are okay, keep the communication with them going. Ask them questions in a calm tone of voice, and in a casual ways. Listen to what they say and if they say something you don’t understand, or something that alarms you, ask them about it, but again, in a calm, casual way. If they hear you anxious and alarmed when you ask them questions, they are not likely to give you the information you need. They may want to protect you from any information that will alarm you further.

So show them that you are calm enough and strong enough to hear their truth, whatever it is. If they tell you this or that and it alarms you, you are welcome to share it with me and I’ll give you my input.

anita