It’s strange, I always was hard on myself for these habits but never really stopped considering I should feel sympathy for myself for performing these. I’m familiar with the concept of accepting them before trying to do anything else but you suggesting I should feel empathy for how much I suffer internally that I need them hit me differently

I don’t like to pity myself for awful my life is at the moment and I don’t want others such as future partners and friends to pity me neither, that’s why I react like this