Dear Sofioula:

I am looking forward to a time when you will trust your “ability to judge matters correctly”, and I am sure you are looking forward to it.

“mom & dad not listening to my voice, my advice, laughing sarcastically when I voiced an opinion”- we learn by experience. You experienced your parents not listening to you and making fun of your thoughts, so you learned that you are not worthy of being listened to and taken seriously. The only thing that can change what you learned is having a new experience, where someone does listen to you and does take you seriously.

Problem is that the most important people in your young life, your parents, were like gods to you then. And what they taught you was like the word-of-god.

So now, as an adult, what I say, what any person says, doesn’t carry that weight, because for the adult you, no person is god.

“I’m really looking forward to therapy”- your therapist will have to establish much appreciation in you for her, much trust, over time, so that her words will carry a greater weight than other people’s words in your adult life.

I read your explanation regarding your two Sophies but I will go back to it later, when I feel more focused and reply to you further at that time.

anita