@shelbyville i don’t have any chants but you could try lost fob come out wherever you are? Lol whenever I lose something which is often I look for it amongst the most cluttered part of my house usually my bedroom and always find it amongst the heap of clutter. Don’t worry though try thinking back to when you had it last and what you did after and revisit those spots. If you don’t find it dont beat yourself up. These things happen and you know logically you just need to pay to replace it. Which will be ouch but no one died or got hurt. It was an accident and can be rectified.

In regards to the your ex. It is common to recall just the best highlights however this us is one of the times you really need to assess the bad because those are the things that got you to here. So make a conscious effort to write down or recall the difficulties everytime you find yourself ruminating about what you miss or think you had. Just like the resentment comment stung you it also kicked in your self respect. You will find seeing you ex for who he really was will in turn make you realise how good of a partner you were and you will realise actually yes I loved this person but so much made me feel like shit and caused me heartbreak. I do deserve better and I should stop letting the illusion betray my mind and heart. Why am I continuing to allow it to?

Your lack of direction will cease when you let go of the past. The longer you think that was your purpose and you can’t get it elsewhere the longer you will remain stationary and spiral further into a pit of despair and lack of focus. If you still believe that your ex is the one then ask yourself why are you not making and effort to make it happen? Because you know he isnt right for you deep down and you are scared to let go and take a leap again. That’s the real issue fear and it was the same for me after 5 years I said enough no more wasting my life it’s not easy it’s tough but at least I’m moving forward willing to risk things wholeheartedly..once you actually block your ex from ever contacting you which needs to be done that will be the day you have let go, You will automatically find yourself working towards a new relationship like me/ a new career path/an ambition of buying your own place. Etc  the purpose will come as you will feel reinvigorated to create the future you deserve. Xxx