Dear Enya:

I don’t believe these are signs. I think that a waiter having the same name as your boyfriend’s is a coincidence, and not a surprising coincidence if your boyfriend’s name is not unique.

Regarding the images of butterflies appearing in pictures and jewelry, those pictures and jewelry with the image of butterflies were produced before you asked the universe for “a butterfly as a sign”. They were not produced after you asked for a sign. Therefore, they were not projected as a result of you asking for a sign.

Often when we have an image in our mind (ex., a butterfly), we tend to pay attention to seeing an actual image of it in real-life, when otherwise, when we don’t have a particular image in our mind, we don’t pay attention to it in real life, especially a small size image (as opposed to an image of an elephant, for example, being too big and too unusual to ignore).

When you asked the universe for a sign regarding what is best for you to do regarding your long  term relationship, you assumed that the universe cares about what choice you make. My problem with this thinking is that the universe (as a power that cares about the people in it) hasn’t listened to millions of children and innocent people in deadly situations, such as in wars: people about to die who begged and prayed and screamed out to the universe: save me, don’t let me die!

And they died. So, if the universe doesn’t care about millions of innocent people dying, why would it care about whether one woman continues or ends a long distance relationship?

*If you want my input regarding your long distance relationship, do share about it and I will be glad to read and reply to you further. Clearly, this is an important issue for you and a difficult decision to make.

anita