Also I had no idea of any unhappiness in the relationship or that she wasn’t in love with me there was the odd occasion but very rare that she would look like something was wrong and I would say is everything ok and she would reply yes and mostly say she was just tired she did mention going to speak to someone but at first I said no but then put it to her that we could and she said that we can basically do it ourselves and that a work colleague had spoken to someone about there marriage and said it didn’t work I have also tried to say I think she may have some problems of her own maybe depression I am not sure and said maybe she should speak to someone and see what they say so she can be in a better place regardless of what happens with the relationship thanks