Yes that’s it she has mainly said the same things but did about 3 times say about trying but as I mentioned to her that when she has said about trying I don’t think she truly meant it but yes I have to just move on now because she is showing no change in anything and like I said I will respect that no matter how hard it is to the thing that gets to me as well is our child that obviously is the one that’s been hit the worst in all this with obviously loosing having both her parent’s there yes she will still have us both just not in the same way it has been I also ask her every so often if she is ok not sure if that’s the right thing to do but feel it’s my duty as a parent to check because from what I see it doesn’t seem to have bothered her maybe it’s not hit home yet I am not sure

This is what I have always said that she should have been able to talk to me and also that I do not have X ray vision to know that she had these feelings because she didn’t not show me otherwise and I have said that due to this I would like the chance now I know to work on things I have suggested marriage counseling recently and she has said no I am in the process of having some counseling myself to go through things as you said which I hope will help because obviously my head is a mess

I think from my perspective I am trying to justify a valid reason for everything which I am probably not doing myself any favours by doing that but I just keep coming back to the point that this has just come out of the blue and although I am aware of things now it’s a big shock and I always thought we could work with any issues that came up which is the case from my side but obviously my wife feels the opposite and it was just something that we didn’t proceed with although we both probably wanted to our second child died in 2014 and hit us both really bad as you can imagine but we have always remained strong about it and talked when we needed too and to also be open and honest to our other child about him some friends have mentioned that this might be something that’s affecting my wife now but she hasn’t said anything I am not sure if I should bring it up or not because regardless of everything that’s going on I still care for her in all this and always will which I have told her

Hi thanks for the reply yes I realize that I made a mistake on both occasions also this is something that has never been mentioned before even though we have both done this to each other on many occasions but as I say in light of everything in the last couple of week this is when it has been brought up and I am not sure why maybe to hurt me for the mistakes I have made but I totally understand that I have made a mistake but yes like I said I am living in hope that she might change her mind but I am pretty sure she will not but I just had to let her know what is going on with me thanks

Haven’t sorry

Yes I agree from the 1st option just the thing with it obviously that’s all I crave is the affection regardless of it involving sex also I am not living with her now I have done what she has and left which is obviously not what I wanted to do especially with our child but it’s what my wife wants which is what I am trying to do I have suggested that she might have some stuff going on with herself as in maybe depression like you said but I think it might have been taken in that I was trying to pass blame which I wasn’t I was just trying to help also she suggested marriage counseling at the start when she came out with everything and I was stubborn and said no but I have suggested it since and she said that her work colleague had done it with his wife and it didn’t help because they talked anyway the thing is now I am away from her and our child I am feeling lost etc everything is so strange which is obviously now I imagine and hope that she might get in touch and say she has made a mistake but I really don’t think she will which will obviously hurt

Hi sorry for the late reply I have now said I will do what she wants me to do and move out and we will need to co-parent the best we can given the situation to which she agreed since my last post my wife made a move on me for sex again a week or so after and again I took a step back like she wanted me too from the last time to give her the space then this last maybe 2 weeks we had been getting on well I had been given her the odd cuddle and cuddling her in bed but this week I made a move on her and she said no so I left it there and went to sleep but then the next day she stated that I had sexualy assaulted her which I was really shocked that she would say this because in my eyes I had only done the same thing I had done in the relationship to try and have sex which my wife has also done the same but the word sexual assault had never come into it I have always put my wife’s feelings first especially with sex etc and if she said no I would back off but I was just so shocked to hear her speak this way I have been trying to think from a different angle that she may be saying it because of the hurt etc she is going through with the relationship breakdown and can only think of it that way I am currently staying on a family members sofa untill I can get myself a place in the next couple of months but I am living on the hope that she might change her mind and ask me to come back although I think thats highly unlikely I have also sent her a message just to say thanks for the life we have had together and the 2 beautiful children we have had and that my door will always remain open I just felt it necessary to do that thanks