Anita,

I have been transparent and as you say, she knows I have feelings. From my point of view, she was also transparent with her first message of us taking some distance, but now from my side it’s different. Not because I don’t have feelings or would like for something to happen with her, but because I decided to respect her decision of the distance and allow her to heal and make a decision regarding her ex. Meanwhile, I also deserve my own process that allows me to learn from the past. I’m trying not to expect anything from her in this moment and just make my life here (like her, i’m not from this town, so for me it’s also starting in a new place), plus learn from what just happened for my own good.

Definitely, I don’t understand why she is doing this again and I’m trying to just take it as a nice moment with a nice person, allowing us to get to know each other, but not changing my plans for her because I feel she doesn’t know what she wants and I don’t want to be hurt (or maybe as you say, she does know, and is trying to get attention, in which case I would also make distance). I have been clear and if she wants something with me, as you mention, she should be clear about her change of mind.

Gustavo