Dear valora

Yes i can relate to your advices as i realize i do a mistake by trying to get close to her by texting, in which there is a friend of me who can help me get to know her as he know im interested in her. I should have waited for him to help me get to know her, but i’m impatient and text her first and this is what happen. Do u think i still have a chance with her? (I’m not good looking so maybe this is also a cons when meeting her for the first time later on, even though that she has saw my face in my ig)

Do u think she’ll be disgusted/turn off when we meet for the first time later on? Or do u think she’ll feel like nothing happen?

Honestly, I have no idea what will happen when you guys meet for the first time or how she’ll feel because that depends entirely on her as a person. None of us here know her… but I don’t think you should expect anything one way or another. Just leave things open.  Sometimes even when you get to know someone well, that doesn’t mean they will want to date you, and it doesn’t mean anything bad about you. If someone doesn’t have feelings for you, it just means you two aren’t a match.

So what I’m saying is don’t get your sights set on one woman, thinking if you get to know her well she’ll fall for you, because that won’t happen if you two aren’t a match for each other. Just be open to connections with the girls you meet, and if there isn’t a connection with both of you, be ready to accept that for what it is (not a match, and that’s okay!) and keep moving on until you find a good match (you’ll know when you do because you’ll feel the same about each other and a lot of your values/wants for the future will line up).

Also… confidence plays a big role in whether someone looks good or not. Confidence and a good sense of humor can make anyone more attractive.  And those guys that are really traditionally attractive… if they have a terrible personality or are full of themselves, they become less attractive.  Attraction really isn’t just about what someone looks like.