Dear Daniel:

You are welcome. When I asked you how your mother’s fears and insecurities showed on her face, her tone of voice, her words, I didn’t mean that you should share private details of your family life, but how her face looked like to you, how her voice sounded to you- what caused you to feel that she is fearful and insecure.

The prospect of your emotional healing depends on you seeing the whole picture of your childhood. The whole picture of your childhood is bigger than the role of your father in your life. It includes the role of your mother in your life as well.

When a mother and child have a .. common enemy, the father, and they bond over that, it is unhealthy for the child. A  partnership over a common enemy should be between adults, not between an adult parent and child.

These things are difficult to look at and consider. I hope that someday you will be able to do so in a quality psychotherapist office. You are welcome to post here anytime you’d like, today, tomorrow, a month from now or a year from now.

anita