Anita,

It’s been a bit longer that usual for my post but I was in Florida for 5 days; I just got back yesterday.  I went by myself and had a really good time.  I am mending my relationship with my mother.  It’s feels really good.  She and my dad are in counseling and their marriage is slowly improving also.

On the other hand, I feel like I am lost on a really small boat with no paddles at sea.  That’s how I feel dealing with my ex husband and his girlfriend.  He does not speak to me at all when he does things with her until after.  Her meeting the kids, her and her son meeting kids all together, her staying the night none of this was mentioned or discussed beforehand.  I got upset about her staying the night and told him that is not acceptable.  He kept giving excuses and said it will not happen again but it will.  I have not control over this situation.  I hate this situation I’m in.  I hate feeling hurt that he has moved on so quickly and says she is the one and they are in love.  I hate feeling hurt when I found out he bounced from woman to woman before getting serious with her.  None of this should bother me and it does.

I don’t know how to move forward with this besides not giving him ammunition or fueling his behaviors by reacting.  He has cards set out from her in the kitchen and pictures they took.  I wonder if I should even come in the house-stay in the doorway?

Lindsey