Anita,

My thoughts are I feel like someone is punching me in the stomach.  Whenever I find out she’s been around the kids.  My brain isn’t really thinking anything but that I feel hurt  and definitely not that I want to be with him again.

I feel betrayal besides hurt.  I feel like he’s having her around without telling me first on purpose.  I feel like a lot of his actions are on purpose to see my reaction; he wants to hurt me.  He used to go crazy about me being around men and didn’t want the kids meeting any man I was dating.  He had strong feelings about that.  And since I  moved out, he has bounced from woman to woman, never being by himself.

Lindsey