Dear Gaia:

When I wrote to you yesterday the following: I see your reason for your distress (your trauma) as way more solid than you do. If you saw it as solid as I do, you would be interested in dissolving it-

– I wasn’t thinking at all about you “seeking a psychiatrist and a psychotherapist.. cut all contact with my family”. What I was referring to is what you wrote yesterday: “I sound like just whine without a solid reason“.

To elaborate: many times during your threads you minimized the trauma you experienced with your mother, often suggesting that she really has nothing much to do with your mental distress. When I suggested that you remove your loyalty from her, I mean that you stop taking her side and start taking your side. Taking your side will be the start of dissolving the trauma you suffered because of your mother’s behavior.

anita