Hi @shelbyville

That’s the thing with hope it’s a great thing however in cases like this hoping for hollywood romantic scene to materialise where two lovers cross paths and everything is perfect again is dangerous. It is what stops us from progress. The mind is a powerful weapon what you feed it is what will unravel for us. So I would stop all contact now. Move on you are not going to be in each others lives do you really need to stand on the sidelines and discover the moment he meets someone new. Do you think it is what you need to pick at that same wound and hurt again and again? Let go. That is the final step. Wish him well and if you do see each other again be cordial but don’t feel it is a concentrate task to keep no contact instead think of it as done. Tell your mind it’s closure. If you now try to do what I did and be an acquaintance or friend you may still carry some renewed hope but he will time and time again hurt you when he rejects you. From my pain I I don’t want anyone to go through that.

Your job comes down to one thing..which one will make you most happiest in long run. Which one will make you feel I did it..I ventured out to a new city, new connections or I tried a whole new Avenue and worked my way up. Be wary that although right now mr happy ever after is not on the scene he will be i believe you will find love again. So which job out the two is better in the long run for family etc.

Thow are things with your new friend?

Also you are just harsh on yourself..the way you were when I first came on here to now is completely different. You are making movement. Final thing to say none of us know who we are but just take each day and discover new things about what you like and what fulfils you and you’ll be a more happier person for it.

Jay and I are going to be. I’m going to try as that is all I can do. With effort and patience and a good heart to heart I’m going to make him see the genie who he turned his head again. This life is full of options but instead of choosing one and trying we give up. So I’m going to commit to being a better person for myself and encourage a more healthier relationship with Jay. Wish me luck!!