Dear Stepan Pavlas:

It takes time and effort to know a person, this is why I suggested a long-term communication between you and me. I ask questions, you answer; you can ask me questions about what I meant by saying this or that. This way we improve our communication and in doing so, you get to know yourself better, and I get to know myself better.

“I can’t say anything about myself. If I had to describe myself, I would have to  think for a long time who I am. I’ve never been clear about this. I don’t know what my character is, I don’t know how I affect others, and I don’t even know what they think”-

– it is within an honest, long term communication with another, that you learn who you are, that you become clear about who you are, and what is your character. Within such a communication, you get to know how you affect me because you can ask me, and I will tell you. You get to  know what I think because I tell you, and if I don’t, ask me and I will tell  you.

You assumed I was angry at you for not answering my fist question, but your assumption was wrong. Don’t be alarmed for making the wrong assumption, I made plenty of wrong assumptions in my life. But I learned to ask instead of assuming.

I wasn’t angry that you didn’t answer, I pointed out that you didn’t, that is all.

I understand better why you don’t like being called a kid.

I am wondering, asking, that is: how do your parents act when they get angry at you?

anita