Dear Gaia:

Thank you for saying I come across very peaceful and balanced and mature, it makes me feel good to read you saying that. But I assure you that I was very far from being those things for most of my life. It took a lot of intentional, persistent, long term healing and this is why I want you to heal too, so that you too can be very peaceful and balanced and mature. But I do  know it is a very difficult process, and that it is up to you to persist in it or quit.

This former classmate and current team member- I want to understand what specific wrongs she did to you. You mentioned her being passive aggressive to you but that’s not specific, I will need an example. Here is something specific: “She also used to only greet my very other close friend without greeting me too hello??.. singling me out?”- if you and someone else are in front of her, and she looks at the other person and says hello, while not looking at you and not saying hello to you, that is singling you out. Is that what happened (and more than once)?

Can you give me an example of her trying “to make subtly fun” of you  on Instagram?

Problem is you are not sure if she wronged you or you just perceive it to be this way. I think that I can help you to become clear about it. But it will take you giving me specific examples, as if filming this or that happening for me. For example not greeting you, how that looked like if a camera was filming it.

If we figure out that she indeed singled you  out and that she did it purposefully, then it is a good idea that you take the middle road between “smash her head against the concrete” and being “civil and courteous”, the middle way will be you telling her exactly what she did wrong, using an angry, strong voice while looking at her in the eye, standing straight and confident,  and watching her.. well, watching her reconsidering her ways.

anita