Dear Nia:

She sent him this message,  a quote from an article: “social relationship: keep distance from someone you like. Because that human heart is not for u”- I don’t know the context of this sentence: what was the article about, what happened between your husband and the woman before that message, or after.

In general, I’d say: your worries are not without  a basis in reality: he is a young man, she is a young woman, he thinks (he used to think, so I assume he still does) that she is attractive. He definitely likes her; also, husbands cheating on their wives is not unheard of, so all in all, there is some basis in reality to your worries, and jealousy. On the other hand, you don’t have evidence of more than flirting at the most, between the two of them.

It is possible that you will not be able to have peace of mind for as long as you know that he is working in the same place where she works, as long as you know that he has any contact with her. It is also  possible that you will not have peace of mind even if your husband no longer has any contact with her.. and there may be other women to worry about.

Because you don’t have children yet, consider the following possible solutions: divorce him (extreme solution, isn’t it.. but it may be the solution for you!), consider asking your husband to look for a job elsewhere and quit his current job. What do you think about these solutions?

Also, if you want to give me more context regarding the message she posted for him, please do.

anita