March 17, 2020 at 11:00 pm #343884
Should i ask him to get explanation? But i just thought he will still said he didn’t like her, just friend. But i thought friend will not be like this right..? And he just said “it’s up to you if you didn’t believe me”
And it will become more hurt for me.
Do you think he lie to me..?
Thank you anitaMarch 18, 2020 at 10:44 am #343946
She sent him this message, a quote from an article: “social relationship: keep distance from someone you like. Because that human heart is not for u”- I don’t know the context of this sentence: what was the article about, what happened between your husband and the woman before that message, or after.
In general, I’d say: your worries are not without a basis in reality: he is a young man, she is a young woman, he thinks (he used to think, so I assume he still does) that she is attractive. He definitely likes her; also, husbands cheating on their wives is not unheard of, so all in all, there is some basis in reality to your worries, and jealousy. On the other hand, you don’t have evidence of more than flirting at the most, between the two of them.
It is possible that you will not be able to have peace of mind for as long as you know that he is working in the same place where she works, as long as you know that he has any contact with her. It is also possible that you will not have peace of mind even if your husband no longer has any contact with her.. and there may be other women to worry about.
Because you don’t have children yet, consider the following possible solutions: divorce him (extreme solution, isn’t it.. but it may be the solution for you!), consider asking your husband to look for a job elsewhere and quit his current job. What do you think about these solutions?
Also, if you want to give me more context regarding the message she posted for him, please do.
anitaMarch 18, 2020 at 6:02 pm #344024
Its not her that sent the article. But. She post the article on her social media. Then, their colleague(another person), send that feed to my husband.
The article said : keep distance from someone you love. Because that person love someone else.
Thank you anitaMarch 18, 2020 at 6:17 pm #344026
You are welcome. So let’s see if I understand: a colleague, a third person, sent your husband an article that was in the woman’s page. So it is the woman we are discussing (let’s call her W) who posted this article on her page, and the third person brought it to your husband’s attention.
Who do you think is W referring to in (1) “someone you love” and in (2) “someone else” in these two sentences?
anitaMarch 18, 2020 at 6:26 pm #344032
I thought its referring to 1.. i don’t know exactly. But that post(like story on Instagram) will be deleted automatically and i cant ask him anymore bout that content..
Thank you anitaMarch 18, 2020 at 6:34 pm #344034
I don’t see a reason for you to be concerned with that sentence. I don’t understand what it means to send a feed (I don’t have Facebook and am not engaged with any social media other than this very website), so if there is something unusual about the third party sending the feed to your husband, let me know.
Otherwise, Nia, I think that you are over-thinking, big time. I feel badly for you because I know how distressing it is to think and think.. and think negative things, I’ve done it myself, a whole lot and suffered for it.. a whole lot.
Is there a way for you to relax, take a hot bath, listen to soft music, anything like that?
And where is your husband right now, at work (I don’t know what time it is in your side of the world)?
anitaMarch 18, 2020 at 7:13 pm #344042
If u didn’t understand about facebook etc its okay anita.. let me explain about my thought.. i just didn’t understand and curious. Why is third party send “her post about feeling” to my husband.
Thanks anita for undestanding me.. i hope someday i can be like u.. can transform wisely.
For now, in my side, 9 AM. He work at home because of office’s policy bout corona pandemic. And i still go to work because my office haven’t announce any policy bout corona.
Thank you anitaMarch 18, 2020 at 7:36 pm #344048
From what you shared, your husband sounds like a good man, not a romantic one but one you can trust. Go to your husband, will you, and ask him if is there is anything for you to worry about, regarding him being faithful to you. When he answers you that there is nothing for you to worry about, take it in, take a deep breath in and believe him, then tell him that you love him a whole lot. Let me know how it goes.
And you are welcome. (You don’t have to thank me every post).