Yes this was his first real relationship \ girlfriend for me I’m 7 years older and have had a few serious boyfriends before him      As for getting married we did talk about it but was never too important to us our son came along and then our home       we have had a good relationship over the years of course ups and downs but have never talked about ending it  as I said over the last 4 to 5 years we have had lots of pressure due to parents needing care and help it was hard but we were both happy to do it I felt this was our time to shine and start putting us first again he is a good man to both me and my son and would do anything for anyone and did this is why this behaviour is so out of character    He did not believe I was sad about losing him just our life I guess we have taken each other for granted at times during our relationship but who doesn’t it’s 27 years  but never ever did I think he wanted out