Dear CB:

I suggest you call your ex partner and say something like this to him: I understand that you don’t want me in your life anymore as a partner, and I accept it. I don’t want a man in my life who doesn’t want me back. I am therefore not calling to get back with you, and I will never call for that reason. What I am calling about is your parents.  I took care of your parents for a long time and I care for them. I want you or (his sister) to update me about what is happening with them. I want to be able to send them messages (or gifts, whatever is allowed). Can you do this for me?

– if he is just a bit of the good man you said he used to be, then he would say to you: yes, I am sorry I didn’t update you. The latest that happened is… (an update).

anita