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April 11, 2020 at 12:02 pm #348846
Inky
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Hi Kate,

A line I’ve used is “I’m not a good ally for you about this”.

Yes, there will be shock. Yes, there will be push back. Yes, she might make you pay for this in some way.

Since she is a narcissist, it’s best to make everything about HER/”HER”.

“Mom, I’m only twenty years old, I have nothing to offer you. You really need girl talk from someone who gets it.”

“Mom, this isn’t good for you to vent about dad. Let’s go for a drive to that place you always like.”

“Mom, let’s stop talking about him. Let’s talk about you.”

Good Luck!

Inky