Dear Lisa:

“I really hurt my boyfriend. So how do you think I should apologize. And fix it? Do you think we should go slow when we see each other again? Or jump back in?”-

You shared that you hurt him by breaking up with him and then changing your mind. I suggest the following:

Do not jump back in. Do take it slow. Become friends next, not boyfriend-girlfriend. Engage in meaningful conversations with him and get to know more about yourself and about him; he should get to know more about himself and about you through such talks. Get emotionally intimate, not sexually intimate. After the two  of you are emotionally intimate, knowing each other well, then there will be less fear and you will be able to figure out how to proceed.

anita