Hi Lily,

Thanks for sharing your experience about the article on TinyBuddha. I hadn’t myself completely read it and thought from the title it might be of any use to you. Good that you took up a few improvement points from it. Regarding the title of that post it is actually the other way round. It does not ask us to be unkind to anyone. 🙂  It says that – we think that saying “no” to someone means we are being unkind but that is not the case. Anyways you can take what benefits you and ignore the rest.

I will suggest a website – increasingselfworth dot com

(Replace dot with an actual dot and remove the spaces before and after that dot just like a website address)

Please go through it. There are lots of good articles and free kits. I am sure they will be of help to you.

take care.