Dear Lisa:

“I have a perfect guy”- he is not perfect, no one is.

“Imagining him moving on kills me”- I can’t imagine anyone moving on during lockdown?!

“Imagining him being broken hearted also breaks my heart”- I think that you are exaggerating how much you think that you hurt him. Because you hurt him by going back and forth from breaking up with him to getting back together, simply stop that behavior and don’t get back together with him. That way you will no longer hurt him at all.

“I’m feeling the bad feeling again.. It was gone for two days”- don’t be alarmed when the bad feeling returns. It is its nature to return. When it returns think of it like the sun, once again, hiding behind the clouds and the sky is grey. And say to yourself: the sun will come out again later.

anita