I agree with everything you say. The reason why we fought primarily was because we haven’t had proper communication between us which made me feel that we were becoming distant. Things were so different when we first started dating and now it seems like we cannot even share a conversation or talk. I just miss how we used to be, how things were between us.

I shared all of this with him prior to our big fight, in a calm manner and I wasn’t upset or sad or blaming him and he responded to me reassuring we will figure it out together and that we can make it work. But then after our fight happened, he finally tells me that he is anxious with me and thinks he cannot do enough for us.

Obviously I cannot fix his anxiety (he had childhood trauma as well as me) but he seems to have anxiety with me only.

How can I address the problems I have without making him feel that way? How can he heal from that anxiety he claims he has with me?