Brandy hi thank you  for  your input! yes I was thinking the same that he is afraid now I will never view him the same or maybe think different of him because I  know how his privates look like and how he keeps his hair “there” (because of his  words he said to  me about invading his privacy   but I realize he could’ve  said it out of embarassment and intoxication) however  I would never ever talk   to  anyone else about  this and he should  know that  about me.  I found this forum   by accident and came here for that  reason to  get honest anonymous   advise without anyone knowing him  or me. I hope  as you say  that he realizes I did   the right thing. Brandy i will  include your points  in the note I eventually write him along with what  Anita recommended  also. Brandy why would he make that reference  even if he  was ashamed and   intoxicated ? K