Dear Puppo:

You wrote earlier: “Its all about my relationship with my bf”- but there is not much of a relationship here. If a relationship is like a cake with two layers and chocolate frosting and raisins, all you have is a raisin.

“Guilty or not?” you asked. From what you shared, what you are doing wrong is holding on to that raisin instead of planning on a cake!

A relationship is more than what you had so far with him. Let go of that raisin, there is much more out there for you to experience later, with a different man: sharing thoughts and feelings, plans for the future, knowing each other, appreciating each other, living a full life together.

anita