Dear Vivian:

“I am so confused… I am so scared.. just do not understand”- you are too anxious to be able to think clearly and to understand. Your anxiety level is keeping you confused. I don’t think that you are able to process the thoughts that I  offered you on this thread

I suggest that you tell your boyfriend that you need to take a month time out from the relationship so to lower your anxiety level, have no contact with him during that month, and do all you can to lower your anxiety: have a daily exercise routine, add items to your daily routine, such as guided meditations and mindfulness exercises.

anita