Dear Puppo:

A woman being a virgin or not is a very personal, private matter. Clearly, you don’t want just anyone to know such a personal detail. Therefore, if I was you, I wouldn’t tell him before he clearly states his interest in a love relationship with you, actually telling you (in these or other words) that he is interested in having a relationship with you for the purpose of marriage.

First you need to hear him voice his intention with you clearly, and only then, share with him this highly personal and private matter, and do it only if you trust him enough to keep the matter confidential. Do  it in person and not on the phone or online (you don’t want a record of this personal information being recorded or shared with others!)

Once he states his intention clearly, then tell him simply the truth. It will take courage and probably make you very nervous, but tell him anyway. If your voice shakes, calm down best you can, and tell him: I am not a virgin. I like you very much and I don’t want to lose this opportunity to get to know you better, but I want to have an honest relationship with you. If you lose interest in me because I am not a virgin, then we had a very short, but honest relationship. I would like it to be a long relationship, but always honest.

What do you think of my suggestion?

anita