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  • #356194
    Peace
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    Dear Anita,

    What a coincidence. I just opened Tiny Buddha page just to ask you how you doing and about your health… And wanted to thank you for everything…..

    But i saw a message from your side.. I am so glad which is 4 days before ( sorry i dint get any email notifications so dint check ths page) . ?..

    So yah… I m doing great… And fine…. I found a new passion or hobby whatever i call it… I started learning coding.i started with html and planning to go ahead..i am very motivated .. As i m going to change my field to medical IT so its a good idea to learn coding..its something productive I no more feel emptiness or missing a ex (lol)..  My past guilts are gone i m looking ahead for better future… And i dont feel like being alone as i m  5-6 hours infront of youtube(learning +entertaining) . I don’t mind if my friends are too busy in their lives…

    Tell me about you? How u doing in this time?? Are you still going for walk every day?how is ur physical and mental health…

    Puppo

     

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    #356274
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Puppo:

    Good to read back from you! Medical IT reads like a promising field to get into, “so its a good idea to learn coding.. it’s something productive”- I agree.

    “My past guilts are gone, I’m looking ahead for better future”- it feels good to read this!

    I am fine, thank you for asking. Missing personal interactions with people, sitting close to people, talking, like before the pandemic. It’s been two months since .. and every day seems more like the same as the day before. I do walk every day and my physical and mental health seems fine to me.

    Post again anytime, on any topic, here on this thread or on a new thread that you might want to start, if you do.

    anita

    #356308
    Peace
    Participant

    Dear Anita,

    Very glad to read this “I do walk every day and my physical and mental health seems fine to me.”

    I hope things get normal in few months and finally we will be able to meet our loved ones nd friends in personal like before…

    Yes i ll post here any time… Till then you will be in my prayers… Thank you for your time and efforts for reading my and our issues… A big Thanks from my side…. ❤️

    Take care of yourself…i ll be posting here in future for sure…

     

    Puppo

     

    #356322
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Puppo:

    I am just about to go for another walk. I too hope things go back to .. well, a better normal than that of before the pandemic. I am glad you will post here anytime you feel like posting and thank you for your appreciation and kindness. Take care of yourself as well!

    anita

    #358020
    Peace
    Participant

    Hallo anita,

    I am again here…somwthing is going on in my life i want to share here and want your opinion and suggestion about it..

    Before two weeks my best friend roommate saw me….he is also from same caste as me… ( as we only marry within our caste… Some do outside but they are exceptions) so he liked me and asked my best friend about me again and again… So he Wanted to be in contact wd me…

    Iwe started talking from last 4 days he is a decent guy and  our likes nd dislikes matches too… My best friend likes him alot as they are roommates from last 4 years…

    Ji m actually liking him too… But the problem is i have a past..i m not a Virgin.he dint have gf. My best friend said me that i should tell him this thing as we meet… Nd i want to tell him but how??

    What if he rejects me?

    Or if we move in to a relationship but he wont forget about it ever?

     

    I actually kinda liking him so i dont want to let him go…. As we are from same caste, in same country(near to each other), having things in common, he is decent and nice guy…

    Whats ur opinion about it? What should i do and when should i say… Should i wait longer to tell him? Or should i tell him om call or infront of him… Or any other suggestion

    #358057
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Puppo:

    I am looking forward to read your recent post and reply when I am back to the computer, in about 14 hours from now.

    anita

    #358163
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Puppo:

    A woman being a virgin or not is a very personal, private matter. Clearly, you don’t want just anyone to know such a personal detail. Therefore, if I was you, I wouldn’t tell him before he clearly states his interest in a love relationship with you, actually telling you (in these or other words) that he is interested in having a relationship with you for the purpose of marriage.

    First you need to hear him voice his intention with you clearly, and only then, share with him this highly personal and private matter, and do it only if you trust him enough to keep the matter confidential. Do  it in person and not on the phone or online (you don’t want a record of this personal information being recorded or shared with others!)

    Once he states his intention clearly, then tell him simply the truth. It will take courage and probably make you very nervous, but tell him anyway. If your voice shakes, calm down best you can, and tell him: I am not a virgin. I like you very much and I don’t want to lose this opportunity to get to know you better, but I want to have an honest relationship with you. If you lose interest in me because I am not a virgin, then we had a very short, but honest relationship. I would like it to be a long relationship, but always honest.

    What do you think of my suggestion?

    anita

    #362004
    Peace
    Participant

    Dear Anita,

    Thank you so much for writing me back… Actually i read it but before even reading it..i told him about my previous relationship and also told him that i m not a virgin… He was  very okey with it and he also told me that he was in a marriage nd now divorced.

    Actually after knowing this about him i felt very comfortable wd him.. Nd i felt i m not only one who has a past..

    We are still togather…he tallks about us nd out future, he talks about our marriage that how and when he is thinking to do it. I conclude from his such talking that he is serious about us.. .. . I appreciate your time and energy for everytime for reading and replying my posts…

    Thank you ❤️

     

    #362006
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Puppo:

    Good to read back from you! You are welcome and I appreciate you taking the time to post an update, and glad to read such a positive update. Good to read that he was okay with your past (and that you are okay with his). Any time you want to post again, please do.

    anita

    #362007
    Peace
    Participant

    Dear Anita,

    Sure i ll post… Thank you!

     

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