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  • #363121
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    Sending them money for living expenses isn’t alot it might be 8%-10% of his salary.. Nd i m okey wd that

     

    #363120
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    • Dear Anita and Noor

    I m 100% sure that he has given divorced because i heard him on call with his sis and also my best friend show me proof of his divorce before our dating…

    A small update.

    As i was very Messed up from last few days thinking about whole situation… I wasnt talking to him alot… Yesterday we talked on call and i told him the reason of my being upset… Then he wrote me, “if u are so tensed about me and being pressurised by ur family about other proposal, thn its better if u dont upset ur family for me…if you are in my luck ee will definitely meet”

    I was so devastated… That he selected this option for me.. I wrote him back ( emotionally) “i dint know you will give up on me so easily and i dont believe in luck that much but incase if you are in my luck i dont want u to come again in my life because i dont want to be wd smbdy who can give up on me in the name of luck or situation… And i told him i m not going to contact him ” nd i told him that”  i might block you not because ii m upset wd you but because i want to forget you.. Good luck…”

    I don’t knw if i wrote smthing wrong or not but thn he texted me” Wow Thank you so much ”

     

    Did i messed up with my reaction to his text…

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    #363084
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    I felt very disappointed when i asked him for doing a marriage contract without ceremony and he said he doesn’t want to do any marriage before 2 years.and that he has issues of previous marriage which he needs to finish first..

    He wants to spend his most of the time with me, plans for everything, ready to move in wd me, going for outing with me, but when asked for a contract..he gave priority to that house nd the issues he will be facing.. I feel like i m asking alot from him so early in relationship. Which is ruining and creating conflicts between two of us alot…and destroying this thing.. (And doing marriage contract was very emotional decision, even i would have done that earlier but felt very odd)

    But we spend alot of time togather.. It doesnt feel we are in beginning of it…

     

     

     

     

     

     

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    #363083
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    Hello Anita..

    All i m asking from you is that how to solve this mess.. What do u think what should i be doing..

    My bf (29) of 2 months, who needs time to (almost one year) to finish his unfinished work from last marriage…so that he can marry me or talk to my family… Before that he cant.

    Me (24)  on the other hand being asked by family to accept our family friends son, who is one of my good friend andwhose brother is also my sis’s Fiance.

    I have no idea what to say my family… And should i accept or reject him.. Because my 2 months of bf is not ready to take a stand so soon..and want me to wait. What if my relationship doesn’t work… After a year..

    The third thing which is stressing me is that he is my best friend’s room mate.. And when my bf stays at my place i start to think how will he be thinking about me.

    I m very upset with my bf because i dint ask him for anything. I m independent, financially independent, having my own apartment, doing my studies, doing job, having my own visa…

    Even with my visa i can sponsor him as he doesnt have proper visa.he works full time and his 80 % salary goes for installment of the house which he is buying… I m willing to help him in every way whenever he needs me…

    Sometimes i feel he just listens me but doesn’t understand me….

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    #363027
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    Hello Anita,

    Thank you for your response.. Yes he told me he needs time from me almost 1 year and 1.5 so that his ex issues finishes thn he can go ahead with me officially…

    I dint get your these lines  completely…

    You don’t owe him to be in a relationship with him, and you don’t owe your friend (his roommate) to be in a relationship with him,

     

    #362007
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    Dear Anita,

    Sure i ll post… Thank you!

     

    #362004
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    Dear Anita,

    Thank you so much for writing me back… Actually i read it but before even reading it..i told him about my previous relationship and also told him that i m not a virgin… He was  very okey with it and he also told me that he was in a marriage nd now divorced.

    Actually after knowing this about him i felt very comfortable wd him.. Nd i felt i m not only one who has a past..

    We are still togather…he tallks about us nd out future, he talks about our marriage that how and when he is thinking to do it. I conclude from his such talking that he is serious about us.. .. . I appreciate your time and energy for everytime for reading and replying my posts…

    Thank you ❤️

     

    #358020
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    Hallo anita,

    I am again here…somwthing is going on in my life i want to share here and want your opinion and suggestion about it..

    Before two weeks my best friend roommate saw me….he is also from same caste as me… ( as we only marry within our caste… Some do outside but they are exceptions) so he liked me and asked my best friend about me again and again… So he Wanted to be in contact wd me…

    Iwe started talking from last 4 days he is a decent guy and  our likes nd dislikes matches too… My best friend likes him alot as they are roommates from last 4 years…

    Ji m actually liking him too… But the problem is i have a past..i m not a Virgin.he dint have gf. My best friend said me that i should tell him this thing as we meet… Nd i want to tell him but how??

    What if he rejects me?

    Or if we move in to a relationship but he wont forget about it ever?

     

    I actually kinda liking him so i dont want to let him go…. As we are from same caste, in same country(near to each other), having things in common, he is decent and nice guy…

    Whats ur opinion about it? What should i do and when should i say… Should i wait longer to tell him? Or should i tell him om call or infront of him… Or any other suggestion

    #356308
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    Dear Anita,

    Very glad to read this “I do walk every day and my physical and mental health seems fine to me.”

    I hope things get normal in few months and finally we will be able to meet our loved ones nd friends in personal like before…

    Yes i ll post here any time… Till then you will be in my prayers… Thank you for your time and efforts for reading my and our issues… A big Thanks from my side…. ❤️

    Take care of yourself…i ll be posting here in future for sure…

     

    Puppo

     

    #356194
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    Dear Anita,

    What a coincidence. I just opened Tiny Buddha page just to ask you how you doing and about your health… And wanted to thank you for everything…..

    But i saw a message from your side.. I am so glad which is 4 days before ( sorry i dint get any email notifications so dint check ths page) . ?..

    So yah… I m doing great… And fine…. I found a new passion or hobby whatever i call it… I started learning coding.i started with html and planning to go ahead..i am very motivated .. As i m going to change my field to medical IT so its a good idea to learn coding..its something productive I no more feel emptiness or missing a ex (lol)..  My past guilts are gone i m looking ahead for better future… And i dont feel like being alone as i m  5-6 hours infront of youtube(learning +entertaining) . I don’t mind if my friends are too busy in their lives…

    Tell me about you? How u doing in this time?? Are you still going for walk every day?how is ur physical and mental health…

    Puppo

     

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    #354502
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    Dear Anita,

     

     

     

    As u asked,

     

    was wondering, did you relate to Kaira in the movie as far as having issues with her parents, particularly being abandoned by your parents in some form?

     

     

     

    Actually no. I dint relate to her.. But i felt how she must be feeling… Even though i had not a happy childhood, i felt unloved, wished to be dead because no one shows me affection, appreciation, care, love apart from my mom… I was very sensitive… I used to cry alone nd used to pray to God for death in childhood… I was scared from my male cousins, because they never respected me or loved me as a child as we were very poor..

     

    At age of 11 i was forced to stay home by my cousin because he thought i m now grown up nd shouldn’t go outside… All i have is those harsh memories….

    #354486
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    Dear Anita,

     

    As u asked,

    was wondering, did you relate to Kaira in the movie as far as having issues with her parents, particularly being abandoned by your parents in some form?

     

    Actually no. I dint relate to her.. But i felt how she must be feeling… Even though i had not a happy childhood, i felt unloved, wished to be dead because no one shows me affection, appreciation, care, love apart from my mom… I was very sensitive… I used to cry alone nd used to pray to God for death in childhood… I was scared from my male cousins, because they never respected me or loved me as a child as we were very poor..

    At age of 11 i was forced to stay home by my cousin because he thought i m now grown up nd shouldn’t go outside… All i have is those harsh memories….

    #354484
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    Dear Anita,

    As u wrote,

    “Be selective: if you contacted your most recent ex, that would have been a mistake because he would drag you down, not pick you up!”

    Ya that could be a mistake nd i felt more miserable.. Because i was unintentionally waiting fr him to reach out to me etc after that conversation… Nd i also know that its not a wise decision for both of us… Because of all family drama…

    Un ur another post you asked me about my study major so that u could recommend me something..so i m going to start Medical Informatics.. Its about IT…

     

    #354380
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    Dear Anita..

    I was talking about my previous relationship kn my last post that my ex approached me after long Time nd i was fully okey about it… But suddenly i brokw down nd started missing him…

     

     

    #354376
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    Dear Anita,

    I m happy for you that u are doing very healthy activities in this locked down…☺️

     

    And may be there is something i want to share with you here… My ex reached to me almost 3 weeks before… We are broken up almost 7 months before…we were in same city and we were so connected and in love with each other.everything was great .. I moved to new city thn because of misunderstanding.i felt he doesn’t trust me . Nd without any break up everything finished… He was mad at me and i was at him…

    In these 7 months i have already moved on nd everything… After his reaching out i was okey too… I dint care i talkd very normally… Replied very respectfully… 3rd day he called again i dint pick up… But just before 5 days i was sitting in balcony i broke down while missing him… i started thinking how mch i loved him nd how mch we enjoyed laughed.. Did everything together.. And why ths happened how could he just leave me when we were doing so great… Etc….nd the only question in my mind was why didnt he trust me???

     

    And just before 2 days before i watched a bollywood movie ” Dear Zindagi” which means (Dear Life) its about a girl who faces problems with are relationships (love, family, work) nd goes to a therapist which explains her about how to find solutions of her problems…

    So in one scene that therapist says to her ” why suffer alone, let the other person know about it”

    I understood it in that way that why am i carrying that burden of those questions on my shoulders i should better ask him….

    So yesterday night again i broke down while missing him… Nd asking my self the same question how could he not trust me…because i invested alot in him… So it was 1 am at night… Nd i felt like i want to know the only answer… Nd i calld him nd we talked nd i asked him the question first he said leave ths question thn i said i want to know and he said yes its ur right to know…

    Nd he explained me that he dint have trust issues he was just angry etc….. Nd it was a friendly conversation..

    Now today all day long i was thinking about my yesterday conversation nd unintentionally waiting for his text.. Or what he may b thinking.?..

    How is it possible that i went from move on to thinking about him so much… Nd missing him even though i have moved on frm him…

    What is your thinking about it?

     

     

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